When was the last time you stopped to watch the squirrels? Or some other little critter out in nature? Most likely you've heard the saying "stop and smell the roses." But what about "stop and watch the squirrels"? You probably haven't heard that one, because I just made it up. Not that it's outside the realm of possibility that other people could have had that thought or said those words. ;-) But that's a whole other topic. So I'll get back to the squirrels.
A couple days ago, I took my dog Buddy (yes, that's his name, the name that he came with) to walk around Green Lake here in Seattle. Usually I let him stop to sniff around and look at squirrels for a little while, but then try to keep him moving so that we make it around the lake in a "reasonable" amount of time. But on Monday, I didn't care about going all the way around the lake, even though it feels sort of strange not to. Monday was a beautiful, sunny day. And in October, you never know when it will be our last for a while. So I really just wanted to be outside. No agenda.
So when Buddy would stop to look at a squirrel, instead of trying to get him to keep walking, or instead of taking that moment to check my phone, I just stood there with Buddy. Watching him. Watching the squirrel. Watching him watch the squirrel. Looking deeply into the squirrel's eyes. And it felt so good!
Now, I'm someone who loves animals. I always loved watching the birds and squirrels play in my yard. But since getting Buddy back in March, I guess I wasn't really giving squirrels much of my attention, at least not in the same way. Now Buddy was my cute animal to watch and squirrels were just something that made Buddy yank on the leash or not want to keep walking.
Like most dogs, Buddy is very interested in squirrels, but he rarely runs after them. Usually, he just stares. Stares and stares. Stares into their eyes, if they're close enough and willing. And at Green Lake, most of them were! So I got to watch a few staring contests. I also saw a squirrel drink from the lake. I don't think I've ever seen that before. And to be honest, I don't know for sure if the squirrel was drinking from the lake or washing something off or what, because the squirrel's big bushy tail and rear end were blocking the view a bit, but it was probably one of, if not both of those, actions. And it made me smile.
I felt really happy feeling so patient and present and available to seeing more of what was happening around me. Imagining what it's like for Buddy. His mind isn't filled with a bunch of thoughts. He doesn't care about walking around the lake in a certain amount of time. He's just taking in all the smells and sights as fully as he can. Totally in the present moment.
And through that state of presence comes the opportunity for communion. One of my favorite feelings. Communing with nature. With other living things. With the elements. With other people.
Speaking of other people, as I stood there, in these various spots whenever Buddy would stop, feeling patient, relaxed, in awe and amused by what I was witnessing, other people started to stop. They'd stop and look. Curious what Buddy was looking at. Maybe even curious why I was standing there smiling and laughing.
Several conversations with strangers took place that day. One woman who stopped to talk to us (ha! yes, me and Buddy), was a woman who had sat down with us on a bench at Green Lake about a month ago. It was the day I found out my grandmother died, or perhaps the next day. And this elderly woman and I had a lovely conversation back in September and now again in October. Connection. Connection is so easy to find if we're just willing to see it all around us. Be open to it.
So if you're feeling a lack of connection, take the time to stop and watch the squirrels. Go out into the world and keep your head up. Make eye contact with others--squirrels and humans too! Smile. Say hello. Treat the people you encounter in your day as if you've known them for years. Why not? It's fun. Or at least it can be if you decide it will be regardless of how others respond.
Some people will be delighted to interact with you. Some won't even realize you're trying to interact with them because they're so not used to it! So, don't worry if your "hello" or smile goes totally ignored or even makes someone look concerned. Just continue on, and I promise you you'll get more smiles and hellos in response to your own the more you do this and the more you feel at ease with it. :)
That's all for now! Now go out there and watch some squirrels. And while you're at it, smell some roses too.
I've been going through old journals and just found this gem: ;)
WHAT IF YOU WERE A FISH, CONFINED TO A FISH TANK, WHAT WOULD YOU DO? All you can do is swim. And eat. There are no options to leave. You can’t go to another fish tank or the open sea. You’re here in this fish tank in this Honda dealership in Bellevue, WA.
Somebody once told me fish tanks’ sizes are not cruel because fish don’t remember where they’ve been long enough to realize they’re so confined.
But what about when they bump up against the tank? What’s that like for a fish that’s never known anything else versus a fish that remembers life in the sea? Well if what I heard about fish memory is true, there’d be no memory, no comparison to anything else. It just simply would be.
Fish can just be.
Do they think though? I’m watching this clown fish swim and float and look around. Is it really looking? Is it thinking? What is a fish’s consciousness like?
If my consciousness were trapped in a fish’s body, in a fish tank, I’d either go crazy or I’d learn how to fully surrender, accept what is, and be at peace with being so limited.
But I’m not a fish. I’m a human being. A human being so recently caught up in doing that she almost forgot how free she truly is. There is nothing I need to do or not do. There is nowhere I should or shouldn’t be. I am free. Free to be me, no matter how much that changes or whatever that means.
And free to come and go as I please, regardless of doubts and fears about money, business, the future.
The future is unknown. All that’s known now is even so fleeting as the now becomes the past and the future becomes the now that then becomes the past.
You can try to freeze time. You can try to really know something. But what can you ever know other than that the only constant is change? And that includes all the changes in what we can know to be true. But only if you open up to that, only if you allow it to be so, only if you can relinquish control or the burning desire to know, and instead just observe and go with the flow. Riding the waves.
Deep thoughts in an aquarium….
Don’t be fooled by the title. This book doesn’t focus on teaching orgasm techniques, and it’s not a traditional diet book. It’s something better. A sexy spin on diet, weight loss, and women’s self-help, The Multi-Orgasmic Diet is a revolutionary and fun approach to natural, shame-free healthy living. Instead of a restrictive diet that tells women what to eat and what not to eat, this book provides a lifestyle plan that teaches you how to fill up on the ecstasy of life rather than overeating or using emotional eating to fill a void.
You will also learn to cultivate deeper love and acceptance for yourself in this body positive approach to women’s health and sexuality.
The Multi-Orgasmic Diet gives you:
Certified Integrative Nutrition Health Coach and Sexual Awakening for Women Facilitator, Rebecca Clio Gould, serves as a guide on a journey toward self-empowerment. Her mission is to help do away with shame and taboo and help others experience deeper happiness and live juicer lives. This book is inspiring and hopeful while also being grounded in reality.
After years of her own battle with weight loss, cravings, emotional eating, traumatic injuries, and body image issues, Rebecca found a way out of the struggle and into blissful surrender, acceptance, and transformation. The practices she’s gathered and created along the way, as well as the wisdom she has to share, are changing the paradigm around dieting and self-care.
In addition to the more than 80 step-by-step practices in this book, readers will have access to audio and video book bonuses that will support them in their transformational journey of fulfillment and wellness. This book will help readers learn to live a shame-free orgasmic life, filled with true joy and present moment ecstasy.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Rebecca Clio Gould is a Certified Holistic Health Practitioner, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Qigong and Meditation Teacher, Sexual Awakening for Women Facilitator, and Author of The Multi-Orgasmic Diet. She’s on a mission to help women live healthier lives, step into their power, love themselves more, experience more joy, and live life to the fullest--emotionally, physically, and sexually. Rebecca is a graduate of the Heartwood Institute and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. She has been running her own business, Elemental Harmony, PLLC since 2007 and lives in Seattle, Washington.
ABOUT THE BOOK:
The Multi-Orgasmic Diet: Embrace Your Sexual Energy and Awaken Your Senses for a Healthier, Happier, Sexier You
by Rebecca Clio Gould
Elemental Harmony Press
On sale date: November 1, 2016
$16.95 US (Paperback)
UPDATE 11/1/16: The print book is now available on Amazon! You can buy it by clicking here.
On September 26, I received 5 proofs of my book, The Multi-Orgasmic Diet. In this video, I share my excitement with you. Enjoy!
Me: "The Multi-Orgasmic Diet."
Me: "The Multi-Orgasmic Diet."
Gramma: "I don't understand what you're saying."
Me: "i know....The Multi-Orgasmic Diet."
Gramma: "And you printed the book with that name on it?"
Gramma: "Well I wish you the best of luck. I hope a lot of people read it. You are a very good writer. I hope it's very successful. You'll call me and tell me all about it, right? I want you to call me and tell me your book is a smashing success and that you're very happy and that it opens up a whole new world for you...This is just the beginning."
Isn't that great? I think so.
Want more energy? Qi (pronounced "chee") is vital life-force energy. It's all around you and inside of you. You can cultivate qi, get more energy, and feel more energized, by practicing qigong (also seen as "qi gong" or "chi kung"). While there are many systems of qigong, there are also some general practices that don't necessarily belong to one specific system, or school, of qigong. To get started with a few of these general practices, check out my article in OMTimes Magazine: 3 Qi Gong Techniques for More Energy.
Several years ago, I was standing on my parents' dock, looking down into the dark water of Lake Washington, and I wanted to disappear into it..... Read more here...
September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. After you read "Sometimes I Want to Disappear," please share it. Thank you.
Mostly written on September 2, 2016....been sitting in my drafts folder....but watching "Embrace" Monday night reminded me to get back to it, to finish it, and share it.
Bleh! I feel sick to my stomach again, and angry, just thinking about it. And maybe I "shouldn't" be publishing this since I'm also in the process of trying to get magazines to feature my upcoming book, The Multi-Orgasmic Diet. But I have to speak to this.
Last night I went to Half Priced Books to look through some magazines. I had two intentions: 1) find some magazines with images and words I'd like to use for a vision board; and 2) do some research to see which magazines I might want to submit articles to and/or which magazines would be more or less likely to feature my book.
And what I saw was disgusting. Magazine after magazine, page after page, of photo-shopped images of women in poses and with facial expressions that are clearly trying to send a message of what sexy should look like. And they're not even real. And even in a mag that had a feature on the beauty of plus-sized women (and don't even get me started on how the term "plus size" is problematic), the ads on other pages sent another message: you need to lose weight. You need to buy this. You need to buy that. You need to look like this. You need to look like that......if you want to be happy. if you want to be healthy. if you want to be sexy.
And it's fucked up. So many women are being brainwashed into thinking they need something outside of themselves, or need to be or look different. It's totally damaging.
This is actually exactly why those magazines should feature my book, but also why they might not be willing to.... They make their money off of this bullshit.
You see, my book tells women that they are good enough as they are and to ignore the media standards of healthy, happy, and sexy. We all know how many businesses would be hurt by women loving and accepting themselves more, so I imagine mainstream magazines might not be so thrilled about the message I'm sending.
It's going to take a lot more than my book, though. Those magazines need to change, especially the ones that claim to be for the benefit of women, for the health of women. Jesus, I even saw a yoga magazine that is clearly perpetuating the problem. It's sad. And it angers me. And I just need to say that. So there you go. And I'm done. For now....
I've started it again. Some of you may remember that I did this last Fall, too. I've also stared making YouTube videos. So in terms of what I have to say about Day 1 of The Ultimate Yogi this time around, you can find it by watching the video. ;) As for this blog, I have some writing coming soon....
This morning I was expressing some gratitude and love for having one more day to live, one more day to be alive. And it reminded me of a friend who feels like he's running out of time. Does each day feel like one less day, rather than one more day, to him? I don't know. I haven't asked, until now.
And I'm asking myself too, because although today I'm finding the gift in having one more day (and usually I feel this way), yesterday was a different story. Yesterday I was feeling a strong sense of time pressure and time moving too fast. This was primarily related to my book coming out in less than 2 months. I feel like there's so much more behind-the-scenes type of work to do. I was feeling like I'm behind. But are we every really behind? Aren't we always right where we need to be? Even if where we need to be is realizing we need to do things differently?
It's all in the mind. Our perception. Our attitude. Our beliefs. The thoughts we think. Do you wake up feeling happy to have another day? Or do you feel crappy about being one day closer to death? Do you feel one day closer to your dreams coming true? Or is it just another day of feeling further away?
Of course each day is one day closer to death. But death is a natural part of life. And because time is running out, all the more reason to enjoy and make the most out of each day, each moment, as much as possible. Can you make the most out of your time here without feeling pressure to do so? Or without feeling pressure for it to look a certain way? Can you find the joy in the simplest of things along the way to your bigger dreams?
There is no such thing as a waste of time. Again, that perception is all in the mind. Even those things that feel like a waste are giving you some sort of experience or information. What you choose to do with it--and how you choose to feel about it--that's up to you. Sometimes we need to course correct. Sometimes we need to surrender and accept. Can't we always benefit when we surrender and accept? Isn't it just force and resistance, and attachments, that cause our pain?
I think so. But beware of trying to force feeling good or resist feeling your so-called negative feelings. It's important to allow-- but perhaps that's part of the surrender. Allow your negative thoughts and feelings, without agenda to release them or do away with them. But consciously choose to put more focus on the positives, on what's going right rather than what feels so wrong. This may be challenging at first. But as they say, awareness is the first step. So start with just being more aware.
And speaking of awareness, I'm aware that this post could go off, and go deep, into so many directions. But it's time to wrap it up.
The main point here is this: Do you view today as one more day, or one less day? Which of those two options feel better to you? Which brings a feeling of peace and contentment?
If you're addicted to negativity and suffering, or simply feel stuck in it, then it might actually feel more comfortable to you when thinking about having one less day. Thinking of today as one more day, in a good way, may not ring true to you yet. It might even feel agitating. And that's okay. You can start simply by intending to see today as a gift. Not demanding it from yourself, or from life, but just allowing for the possibility. And remember that each day is one more day to practice. ;)
Every single day of your life truly is an opportunity and a gift.
© 2016 Rebecca Clio Gould. All rights reserved.
Rebecca Clio Gould is a Holistic Health Coach and Mentor specializing in women's sexuality and spirituality, as well as trauma recovery. She is also a Sheng Zhen Teacher, Supreme Science Qigong Instructor, Writer, and Author of "The Multi-Orgasmic Diet: Embrace Your Sexual Energy and Awaken Your Senses for a Healthier, Happier, Sexier You."