Mostly written on September 2, 2016....been sitting in my drafts folder....but watching "Embrace" Monday night reminded me to get back to it, to finish it, and share it.
Bleh! I feel sick to my stomach again, and angry, just thinking about it. And maybe I "shouldn't" be publishing this since I'm also in the process of trying to get magazines to feature my upcoming book, The Multi-Orgasmic Diet. But I have to speak to this.
Last night I went to Half Priced Books to look through some magazines. I had two intentions: 1) find some magazines with images and words I'd like to use for a vision board; and 2) do some research to see which magazines I might want to submit articles to and/or which magazines would be more or less likely to feature my book.
And what I saw was disgusting. Magazine after magazine, page after page, of photo-shopped images of women in poses and with facial expressions that are clearly trying to send a message of what sexy should look like. And they're not even real. And even in a mag that had a feature on the beauty of plus-sized women (and don't even get me started on how the term "plus size" is problematic), the ads on other pages sent another message: you need to lose weight. You need to buy this. You need to buy that. You need to look like this. You need to look like that......if you want to be happy. if you want to be healthy. if you want to be sexy.
And it's fucked up. So many women are being brainwashed into thinking they need something outside of themselves, or need to be or look different. It's totally damaging.
This is actually exactly why those magazines should feature my book, but also why they might not be willing to.... They make their money off of this bullshit.
You see, my book tells women that they are good enough as they are and to ignore the media standards of healthy, happy, and sexy. We all know how many businesses would be hurt by women loving and accepting themselves more, so I imagine mainstream magazines might not be so thrilled about the message I'm sending.
It's going to take a lot more than my book, though. Those magazines need to change, especially the ones that claim to be for the benefit of women, for the health of women. Jesus, I even saw a yoga magazine that is clearly perpetuating the problem. It's sad. And it angers me. And I just need to say that. So there you go. And I'm done. For now....
Rebecca Clio Gould is a Holistic Health Coach and Mentor specializing in women's sexuality and spirituality, as well as trauma recovery. She is also a Sheng Zhen Teacher, Supreme Science Qigong Instructor, Writer, and Author of "The Multi-Orgasmic Diet: Embrace Your Sexual Energy and Awaken Your Senses for a Healthier, Happier, Sexier You."