This morning I was expressing some gratitude and love for having one more day to live, one more day to be alive. And it reminded me of a friend who feels like he's running out of time. Does each day feel like one less day, rather than one more day, to him? I don't know. I haven't asked, until now.
And I'm asking myself too, because although today I'm finding the gift in having one more day (and usually I feel this way), yesterday was a different story. Yesterday I was feeling a strong sense of time pressure and time moving too fast. This was primarily related to my book coming out in less than 2 months. I feel like there's so much more behind-the-scenes type of work to do. I was feeling like I'm behind. But are we every really behind? Aren't we always right where we need to be? Even if where we need to be is realizing we need to do things differently?
It's all in the mind. Our perception. Our attitude. Our beliefs. The thoughts we think. Do you wake up feeling happy to have another day? Or do you feel crappy about being one day closer to death? Do you feel one day closer to your dreams coming true? Or is it just another day of feeling further away?
Of course each day is one day closer to death. But death is a natural part of life. And because time is running out, all the more reason to enjoy and make the most out of each day, each moment, as much as possible. Can you make the most out of your time here without feeling pressure to do so? Or without feeling pressure for it to look a certain way? Can you find the joy in the simplest of things along the way to your bigger dreams?
There is no such thing as a waste of time. Again, that perception is all in the mind. Even those things that feel like a waste are giving you some sort of experience or information. What you choose to do with it--and how you choose to feel about it--that's up to you. Sometimes we need to course correct. Sometimes we need to surrender and accept. Can't we always benefit when we surrender and accept? Isn't it just force and resistance, and attachments, that cause our pain?
I think so. But beware of trying to force feeling good or resist feeling your so-called negative feelings. It's important to allow-- but perhaps that's part of the surrender. Allow your negative thoughts and feelings, without agenda to release them or do away with them. But consciously choose to put more focus on the positives, on what's going right rather than what feels so wrong. This may be challenging at first. But as they say, awareness is the first step. So start with just being more aware.
And speaking of awareness, I'm aware that this post could go off, and go deep, into so many directions. But it's time to wrap it up.
The main point here is this: Do you view today as one more day, or one less day? Which of those two options feel better to you? Which brings a feeling of peace and contentment?
If you're addicted to negativity and suffering, or simply feel stuck in it, then it might actually feel more comfortable to you when thinking about having one less day. Thinking of today as one more day, in a good way, may not ring true to you yet. It might even feel agitating. And that's okay. You can start simply by intending to see today as a gift. Not demanding it from yourself, or from life, but just allowing for the possibility. And remember that each day is one more day to practice. ;)
Every single day of your life truly is an opportunity and a gift.
© 2016 Rebecca Clio Gould. All rights reserved.
Rebecca Clio Gould is a Holistic Health Coach and Mentor specializing in women's sexuality and spirituality, as well as trauma recovery. She is also a Sheng Zhen Teacher, Supreme Science Qigong Instructor, Writer, and Author of "The Multi-Orgasmic Diet: Embrace Your Sexual Energy and Awaken Your Senses for a Healthier, Happier, Sexier You."